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Topic: Kids upset because they didn't get a wand
Message: Posted by: iwillfoolu (Aug 9, 2010 04:05PM)
Hi all,
I performed a show recently and did BOR (rising wand, $5) after the show. As always, I offer something free for everyone (autographed coloring page). I have done BOR at many events and for the first time, some of the kids cried because their parents wouldn't or couldn't get a wand. How can I prevent this in the future?

Thanks in advance,
Message: Posted by: Brian Lehr (Aug 9, 2010 04:35PM)
First, of all, kids need to learn that this is simply reality. Too many are being raised in this "entitlement" generation -- "he's got one, so I should have one too! It's my right!" So, if kids are crying because mommy won't buy them a wand, you are not the bad guy. Mommy probably isn't either, but she's the one who's going to have to deal with the kid, not you.

Secondly, the few times that this has happened to me, I always explain to the kids that they can use anything for a magic wand (pencil, stick, crayon, magic coin, woofle dust, etc.). Then I show them a simple trick (coin vanish) using a pencil. This usually works.

Of course, I always tell them that the real key is not in the stick they use, but it's in the trick itself. And in order to learn the magic tricks, they are going to have to buy my $10 magic book! :) (Just kidding).

BTW, for those who cry because they can't buy my books, I tell them they can get magic books for free at their library.

Works for me (and makes the librarians happy).


PS. Occasionally, I'll ask the parents of one or two of these kids to stick around until I'm done the BOR. Then I'll get the kids to help me carry something to the door, or to pack something up, after which I'll give them a wand or book for helping me out. I do this for those parents who would love to buy something for their child, but I sense that they are simply not able to do so. They always appreciate it, and it puts a smile on a child's face.
Message: Posted by: Davidicus (Aug 9, 2010 05:40PM)
Do you have a kid's club? What if you mentioned they could get a free trick for signing up? A win/win!
Message: Posted by: Skip Way (Aug 9, 2010 07:56PM)
As always - Great advice, Brian!
Message: Posted by: iwillfoolu (Aug 12, 2010 09:18PM)
Thanks for the advice guys. I had 2 more events this week and BOR went fine as usual. The Kids Club is a great idea.

Message: Posted by: MikeClay (Aug 12, 2010 10:07PM)
I am currently organizing a kids club...

I love the idea of a free magic trick for joining..
I am also looking at giving away a magic kit once a month to whoever gives the best party tip in my comments on specific posts..
Message: Posted by: Futureal (Aug 14, 2010 01:39AM)
Tell the parents to get a higher-paying job.
Message: Posted by: Alikzam (Aug 16, 2010 07:54PM)
Had this happened to me today. The mom bought one wand for 2 kids to share, but one of them didn't want to share, so she started crying. I gave the 2nd child a wand for free.

About three weeks ago at a library a similar thing happened. A child wanted a wand, but the mom didn't have any money on her. I also gave a wand away to that child for free.

I sell my wands for $5/each and they cost me about $1. For $1, I can guarantee that both those mom's will remember my name. Cheap advertising. Plus it made me feel good.

Don't get me wrong... I'm not suggesting that anyone should start giving all of their wands away for free. But in the right situation, a kind gesture can be considered a marketing expense.