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Chris Berry Special user 831 Posts |
Yes I am extremely frustrated. I have no job, no car, not in school, no friends at all, and nothing to do. On top of that I have my parents breathing down my neck to move.
I am only 18 (turned 18 last November). We ended up moving so I had to quit my job. Granted, it wasn't the best but having to quit and be out of work for 3 1/2 months then trying to get a new job after moving to the north end of the state is pretty hard. No business's around here are hiring. I have applied at 5 different places. The one place was a furniture warehouse and they said they needed someone immedietly. I applied and called back a week later (after they told me they would call me the day I turned in my application) and they told me, "well, we might have looked through it, but we are still reviewing everything so we will let you know if you got the position." I've been looking for a job since December 27th. What makes it even worse is that my parents won't take me around different places to get applications (I don't have a car and I get my license in March) yet they are the ones getting upset because I don't have a job and am not getting applications from anywhere. I would be in school but the school I am trying to get to is in Orlando, Florida (film school) and my parents are not happy with that. Tuition cost is going up so I am scrambling to reserve a spot in school (it will cost $650). They want me to go to school in Oklahoma, mostly for the fact that I will be out of the house. I did check out the school in Oklahoma (my bank account is draining slowly) and it just isn't for me. But to make them happy I was thinking of going to enroll in the Fall Semester. They find this out and it isn't good enough and they are now pressuring me to hurry things along so I can leave for the summer. I just am not getting any support it seems and I have no friends in the area which makes it a bit harder because I have no support from anyone it seems. I understand them being mad at me not being in work (and I feel terrible, I would pay them rent if I had a job) and I know I need to do somethign with my life. My plans just don't satisfy them. I have tried talking to them but they don't seem to want to hear it. They came home tonight (were gone last night) and the first thing I heard was them complaining about what I am going to do. Tonight was the first time I seriously thought about running away. I would have been gone if I had somewhere to go. It is 8:00 P.M.....I think I am just going to leave for a couple hours to think things through. Sorry for the rant and complaining, I'm just frustrated with things right now. If you took the time to read it all then I'd like to say, thank you. If not it is understandable. Chris |
Wolfgang Loyal user TEXAS 223 Posts |
I feel for you and bet many people here at The Café have been in the same situation.
Here's my advice. Start school this summer or as soon as possible. This will solve a couple of problems. It will get your parents off your back and, more important, it will create what sounds like a much needed change in your life. When you go to college, your life changes in so many ways (most of them positive). You gain a whole new group of friends, you discover new career possibilities, and you mature faster than any other time in your life. I've never met anyone who regretted furthering their education after high school. It can only open more avenues for you.
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irossall Special user Snohomish, Washington 529 Posts |
Sorry that your world seems to be full of gloom and doom at this time. Wolfgang's advise is sound and wise and something you really should consider. A point I would like to make is that youth is on your side. At 18 you have so many options at your disposal and a full life to look forward to. It is not unusual for someone your age to feel like the world is against them and no one is listning or cares. You say that you want to go to film school but don't have the money. Your public library has or can get for you, books on film making and pretty much anything else pertaining to films. When not looking for a job or doing homework, read up on your own about film making. When you do finaly get to go to film school you'll be much more knowledable on the subject and school will be a bit easier for you. I guess what I am trying to say is, don't give up your dream of film making because of other responsibilities. Do both, study film making and go to school and/or have a job.
As far as running away? You can't run away from yourself and in the end it is yourself that you must face and live with. If running away solved all our problems, most of us would be fugitives. You are an adult now and as an adult you have and will always have problems that only an adult can have. How you deal with your problems reflect your maturity. I do wish you the best for now and for your future. Now go forth and conquer the world. Peace! Iven
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Ellen Kotzin Loyal user UPSTATE, NY 280 Posts |
Can you get to Florida and work w/school?
Please get to school--no matter the pain. Good Luck. Ellen |
Chris Berry Special user 831 Posts |
Hey guys, thanks.
I went for a walk last night after I typed up my message. Just to think things through. My parents must have known I was irritated about something (it is rare for me to go out for a walk at night by myself unless I am angry or something). When I got home we went to a restaurant and talked things over. They finally offered a plan that works for both of us, I will have a job hopefully soon and be going to school here just to stay busy. Then when I save up enough I'll be heading to Florida. Thanks for the replies everyone. Sorry to waste your time with the long post. Thanks for taking the time to read it. Chris |
hkwiles Special user Howard Wiles 797 Posts |
Chris..Nice one! glad you've got that sorted.
Life is full of its peaks and troughs..so long as you have more peaks then you will be fine. We have all been there at some point in our lives. Keep us informed on your progress, bet you look back on this little episode in a months time and wonder what all the fuss was about. As the others say..get your schooling done now, what ever else you do. You won't regret it. Howard |
irossall Special user Snohomish, Washington 529 Posts |
Chris, don't worry about your post wasting anyone's time. As Howard said "We have all been there at some point in our lives". If we can't listen to someone's troubles, then what good are we? One of the best things we humans can do is to try to help one another. Someday you may help me or someone else who needs a helping hand.
You did the best thing when you took that walk, rather than blow your stack (an easy task) you chose to think things out and try to be rational (not always easy). Good luck to you and let's here from you in the future. Iven
Give the gift of Life, Be an Organ Donor.
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Ellen Kotzin Loyal user UPSTATE, NY 280 Posts |
Good Luck in everything you do! I can just think of how it was at 18--the world is yours! No commitments--
Just find a nitch and go! When you get older...like 34 is really that old... but married, relationships, kids--you don't have that flexibility. So, even though it may be difficult saving up, you will get there--and enjoy it! Ellen |
Chris Berry Special user 831 Posts |
Thanks...so much guys.
I think everything will work out now. Everyone is a bit more at ease, myself, and my parents. Thanks again everyone! Best wishes to you all, Chris |
Chrystal Inner circle Canada/France 1552 Posts |
Hi Chris,
No need for apologies when reaching out for advice especially if you're feeling a bit down. I'm sorry I didn't see your post sooner but I'm glad so many offered advice and encouragement. I would have offered the same advice - going to school will open up a whole new world, perhaps job offers and new friends. Best of luck with everything! Chrystal |
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On 2004-02-12 17:56, Ellen wrote: I agree. I would like to add a couple of more things, Wordsworth wrote "The child is father of the man." Actions have consequences, you are what you do. You are what you think. You are how you act.
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Chris Berry Special user 831 Posts |
Thanks again guys.
Everything has been good so far. I get my car next month and then my dad has a bunch of work he is going to have me do so I'll have a job soon. Thanks again!!! Chris |
blindbo Special user Bucks County, PA 790 Posts |
That must have been some talk you had with your folks!
Job, school, car all worked out... say, would you mind having a talk with my parents? Good to see that things are better, Chris. I hope all parents and children reading this will take note of how you initally were feeling and how it is now after talking openly and safely with your folks. Great job, young man. You are going to be just fine. |
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